Show HN: I told people I'm a convicted felon after 20 years of hiding it (buford.bg)
67 points by buf 6 hours ago
Hi there.
I was engineer number 3 at Eventbrite and founding engineer at Reforge. I've created a dozen or so startups myself and have worked in many others, like Instacart. All this time, no one knew that I was a convicted felon.
It wasn't exactly a topic that came up, but it was certainly something that I never brought up. When you're a convicted felon, people look at you as if you are tainted.
I was unable to rent apartments in San Francisco. I was unable to get a job directly after being released from prison. It's funny because when you owe the state $17,000 in restitution and you can't get a job, people become extremely desperate. And that desperation can easily put you right back into prison.
So I went from homeless person at age 19 to 7-figures about 10 years later. I retired at age 38.
What I'm doing now is writing an autobiography. The main theme of it is hope.
And I want to make sure that people know about it. They don't necessarily have to be interested in it, but if people know about what it's like sleeping in a car believing that one day you will travel the world and then actually doing it, then I think I've accomplished my task in writing this book.
If you're interested, please let me know.
serf 2 hours ago
the fact that you're quick to tell me you're a pardoned felon but not why gives me a creepy feeling, and I say that with a lot of felon friends and family..
probably not the detail to omit to try to hook a readership..
technical aside : on low bandwidth connections your site acts really inconsistent and weird; it appears to be downloading those on-hover sound files.
ChrisMarshallNY an hour ago
It may be a bit of a "hook." He mentions that he explains it in the book, and provides the first chapter. It's probably in there.
I was a nasty felon, but as a juvenile (13). I got clean at 18, so my adult record is unblemished; but nowadays, I would probably be tried as an adult.
No, I'm not not gonna mention why, here. It's just a distraction.
wombat-man 44 minutes ago
Unfortunately, it would actually probably matter a lot if you can afford a good attorney.
Glad to see you're doing well now.
ChrisMarshallNY 41 minutes ago
selectodude an hour ago
https://sos.ok.gov/documents/Pardons/204490.pdf
That’s his pardon. That’s about all we got though, the record was expunged.
netsharc 43 minutes ago
When I saw "pardoned" on his site I thought "I'll wager January 6 and a MAGA pardon".
But this says 2013 so my guess doesn't line up.
WarOnPrivacy 30 minutes ago
I was unable to rent apartments in San Francisco.
I was unable to get a job directly after being released from prison.
It's funny because when you owe the state $17,000 in restitution and
you can't get a job, people become extremely desperate.
And that desperation can easily put you right back into prison.
It is my experience that anti-human outcomes follow a perversion of focus - when intent shifts from actually safeguarding society (thru meaningful redemption), toward destructive (zero tolerance) or exploitive ends (credit, crim reports).I suggest that serially denying paid-for redemption (fines, incarceration) forever (never ending punishment delivered via criminal records) is deeply evil.
ChrisMarshallNY an hour ago
Thanks for sharing this!
I tend to hang with a number of folks with similar stories (I've been a Recovering drug addict for 46 years, and only mention it now, occasionally, because I'm not looking for a job -and it's usually not relevant to HN discussions).
hmokiguess 14 minutes ago
Mixed feelings about it, though appreciate you sharing. Retired at 38 also sounds way too young, not as in "good job dude" but as in you have so much life ahead of you.
Daviey 9 minutes ago
Why do you assume that retirement = life over? If anything, now he has the opportunity to enjoy life on his terms.
hmokiguess a few seconds ago
I guess maybe it's just how I read that word, dictionary says "having finished one's active working life."
I struggle to relate to that for some reason, for me work brings a bit of meaning to life and it's not just about paying the bills.
We are also social creatures, working is a good way to remain social.
I guess maybe he will now "pick and choose" his jobs? Though sounds like he had already been doing this prior ... unless those jobs were toxic to him and he did it for the cash or other motivations, but in his blog he says he loved startups. (It also says he build companies for fun, that to me isn't the same as "retired")
Anyways, the way I see that is more like someone boasting about financial freedom but still actively working. Is that how people define "retirement" these days?
Is my understanding of retirement wrong?
wmchen 2 hours ago
Thank you for sharing this. I would be excited to read your autobiography.
I find stories like yours inspiring, and reassuring in a way. I'm increasingly worried about this trend toward being tough on crime in response to growing public disorder, increasing maximum sentences, and generally taking a no-holds-barred approach because good society has been wronged.
I've been a victim myself, from petty theft to assault when I intervened to stop a hate crime, by people out on bail with long court records. After being assaulted I really did start to question my beliefs on this. But I still very much genuinely believe that people can change and should be given a second chance, even though some won't take it seriously, and for others it might take a very long time.
I've met quite a few people with criminal records, or records as youth offenders, who genuinely did become better people over time. A former classmate of mine used to deal cocaine and is now a personal trainer with a wonderful personality and sense of morality. Another used to be a lookout for a stash house and has similarly moved on from that life.
I guess that's what I find so reassuring about stories like yours. I've seen people change and move on from what was probably the worst chapter of their lives, and become people I'm genuinely glad to know. I worry that in our societal desire to be tougher on crime, we're becoming less willing to give people that chance. And I think stories like yours are a good reminder of why we shouldn't lose sight of it.
juujian 2 hours ago
People can change when you have a justice system that is aimed at reforming offenders rather than simply locking them away or punishing them. America's justice system is the opposite of that, socializing even petty criminals that incidentally land in the system into doing more crime. That's why America has so many more people locked up compared to other countries, which is significantly more expensive in the long run, too...
danso 2 hours ago
I read the first chapter of your autobiography, looking forward to reading the rest. For the current audience reading this, do you mind spoiling/summarizing how you got into software engineering? Had you dabbled in it before your conviction, and did you study it while serving your prison sentence?
Muromec an hour ago
>What I'm doing now is writing an autobiography. The main theme of it is hope.
Hope to work hard and win the lottery ticket when the game is stacked against you? What hope?
I'm happy for your personally, but it doesn't sound like a message of hope.
salesthrowaway3 an hour ago
Reminds me a bit of the actors that tell you they finally broke it big because they didn't quit, or that they made it right before they ran out of money.
That's great and a nice story, but it doesn't take into account the many more that really did run out of money and got into a real tough situation, or didnt quit and just kept trying til their time was over.
pavel_lishin 2 hours ago
Minor feedback: please don't have your site make noises. It's distracting.
_diyar 21 minutes ago
He hit (killed?) his father on the head with a baseball bat.
akk0 30 minutes ago
Show HN: I write books and stuff and have a juicy clickbait hook
Good for you, mate! Less good for those nuclear secrets you may or may not have stolen and those antelopes you may or may not have sex trafficked
cat-whisperer 2 hours ago
your website uses the exact tech as the openAI website that they had for Astra. Interesting
aaron_m04 an hour ago
I don't know anything about this Astra thing but his site looks very AI-generated!
cat-whisperer an hour ago
DivingForGold 24 minutes ago
Assault and Battery with a Deadly Weapon.
Ummmm, actually, I can think of a few politicians who have been accomplices to this, or have authorized this type crime, even one more recent, on a massive genocidal scale, against foreign citizens.
"All this time, no one knew that I was a convicted felon".
Hmm, did he change his name, or ?
blobbers an hour ago
And definitely seem to give off 'smug' vibes about his life afterwards. I'm all for people paying their debt but I didn't get the main theme of hope.
I got a feeling of lack of remorse and someone sort of sociopathically showing off.
louwrentius 2 hours ago
Telling people that you are a convicted fellon without disclosing what you did is a red flag to me.
Especially if its for the purpose to drum up interest for your autobiography.
megraf 2 hours ago
What did you do?
pavel_lishin 2 hours ago
https://buford.bg/books/buford-versus-oklahoma-1
Doesn't go into the why, however. Presumably future chapters will.
larrymcp an hour ago
I believe I've located a news article which gives a brief description of the altercation, at https://archive.is/utJqE
It says that his mother told police that "her son hit her husband after the couple confronted him about being involved in a robbery. She told police her son had property in his room that they believed may have come from the robbery."
rectang 2 hours ago
I've read it and besides the "why", I'm also wondering about the long-term impact on the person who was hit (Buford's father).
pavel_lishin an hour ago
readthenotes1 2 hours ago
Tldr:
Hit his dad on the head with a metal baseball bat with other family members around.
JuniperMesos an hour ago
This could be a crazy violent act that deserves making someone a felon, it could be an act of self defense that was unfairly prosecuted, or it could be something in between.
mmmlinux an hour ago
Well it happened when they accused him of being part of a robbery that took place. So, kind of looks like it might be the first one.
codazoda 19 minutes ago
keel-control an hour ago
ASPD perhaps which would also explain his fast life type strategies of high risk high reward low impulse control decisions. Which in this case led to success.
Reminds of the veritassium video where it said being persistent is more valuable than being consistent in the sense that you only need to win the lottery once to be rich forever. Whereas you can consistently work a job for an indefinite quantity of time and never be rich.